Who am i?
First and forever, I am a freedom lover.
I believe we’re in the birthing of the age of ‘unifism’, a new word for a new era. What does it mean to me? Well, I've long called myself a feminist. Over the years I also became a masculinist, a perk of having a husband, two sons and a male cat.
My novel Dirty Dress tells a story of Lilith, who many consider the first ever feminist. This inspired me to clarify myself as a unifist, because while it’s a rollicking story with many outrageousnesses (imagine what a female-ruled world might look like), make no mistake - I am all about unity, and so is Dirty Dress.
I’m a communications professional with 17 years experience in business writing and editing, and an astrologer holding the internationally recognised Federation of Australian Astrologers Practitioner Diploma.
I currently work as an astrologer and a publication editor for a water utility - I’m a Gemini so two jobs works for me!
I'm married to Wayne Dufty
(dna-architects.com.au) and we've two boys, Luc (14) and Remy (12), and a cat, Adam. We live in Perth, Western Australia.
Wayne and I practice Mahat meditation as a powerful path to reconnect to our souls, and the whole family has regular Integrated Therapeutic Alignment (ITA) energy healing sessions to balance what’s holding us back and help us move forward to be all we can. Mahat meditation and ITA are brought to humanity by Melaney Ryan, founder of the Melaney Ryan Institute of Applied Consciousness.
In September 2017, I began what I’ve wanted to do since I was a kid…
write a novel
the path that led me here
I started my career in public relations (PR), after graduating as the top grading PR student of my year from Curtin University in Perth, Western Australia, with a Bachelor of Social Science.
During nine years in London and Sydney working in PR and corporate communications for the banking and retail industry bodies, I was a media spokesperson in dozens of TV and hundreds of radio and press interviews, and very keen on growing my career. I was entirely skeptical about all things spiritual and didn’t believe in things like energy medicine. During this phase I met Wayne in London, and we married in 2001.
After moving to Sydney, I left my intense job to have our first son Luc in 2004, and that is when my spiritual journey began.
Although uninterested in the higher meaning of life and the nonphysical realms, I was into natural health and alternative approaches, and chose to have a homebirth. Some 30 hours into labour when I was at my absolute end, I screamed silently ‘If there’s anybody out there, HELP ME!’ The response came as a surge of power that allowed my completely exhausted and agonised body to birth Luc. This befuddled my mind and opened a creak in the doorway to my soul.
I muddled through Luc’s first year in something of a depression, and was getting desperate to find something more fulfilling. I had a huge resistance to going back to corporate work, which baffled me. I didn’t know what to do with myself - my perfect-looking life wasn’t ticking the box of my longing, which was the yearning for my soul.
At the end of my tether, I began studying Master Choa Kok Sui’s pranic healing and arhatic yoga in 2005, becoming passionately interested in the soul’s journey and energy medicine. I went on to study Integrated Therapeutic Alignment (ITA) - a sophisticated system of energy medicine - at what is now the Melaney Ryan Institute of Applied Consciousness, then traditional astrology from 2007, eventually becoming qualified through the Federation of Australian Astrologers.
In 2011, Wayne’s architectural business was hit up by the ‘global financial crisis’ and we had to sell our house, Wayne’s Porsche, pull the boys out of their private school and rent a humble house. We were broke for years. I went back to PR work and got a job with our state water utility, where I still work part-time as a publication editor.
In August 2013 I was struck by a ‘nervous system syndrome’ which saw me suddenly hospitalised in agony. The nerves in my shoulders and arms were severely inflamed and so damaged so I could barely move my arms for months.
Even worse than the physical pain was the depths of primal terror it cracked open, and resultant severe insomnia, which put me on pharmaceutical sleeping tablets for 18 months. I nearly lost my mind. Within two years I was completely healed and off the pills, with a lot of help from ITA energy medicine. It was deeply humbling to showdown with serious shadow and come out the other side, and I understand what it is to be in a very dark and seemingly inescapable place.
After reading Paulo Coelho’s The Pilgrimage and watching Emilio Estevez’s The Way, both about the Camino de Santiago pilgrimage through northern Spain, in 2015 I took off alone and walked 500km of the traditional route. I have always been very unphysical so it was all the more bizarre that I’d want to do it. As is widely believed, I found there is a magic along the Camino trail that will present whoever and whatever you need to reveal something important in yourself.